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Ever since Wednesday morning I have had his lump in my throat that I can’t seem to swallow. But the time had come to put the shock aside and reminisce on the smiles that he shared with us and focus on carrying on his legacy. Two big things stand out to me that really defined his character:

I stood witness to Jay’s tremendous capacity to love for the year that we worked together and especially in the last few months since Ever has been with us. She was born in November and I wasn’t for sure about how JT would react to her, especially the incessant crying. Much to my delight he absolutely adored her. When she cried he’d inform me, in that matter-of-a-fact Jay way, that she wanted a glass of milk or a new Pamper. And when she was being good he’d pat her on the back and kiss the top of her head. On the mornings when we didn’t go to my house he would never forget to tell me to say hi to Baby Ever and Max for him. It was absolutely lovely to see such tenderness, concern and love pour out of Jay.

My other favorite experience with Jay was during the few times that I accompanied him to the Beach Center. From the second that we walked through the doors I saw him completely light up. He took such great pride in his work. For the first time in our year together I was a guest, that he so graciously allowed into his world. I was the one who needed the direction and guidance and he so confidently gave it to me. I was often taken aback by how independent that he was. I can’t begin to count the number of times that he told me, “I can do it” and so he did. I think that the most resounding quality in Jay was the determination and purpose that he lived his life with. From belting out harmonies with The Mamas and The Papas to scheduling his week, everything and everyone was important to him. I applaud all of the amazing people that taught Jay, watched him grow and stood by him for all of his years. All of my love to the Turnbull family and Tom and Laura, you meant the world to him.

Love,
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